Hi, my name is not convexer and this is my garbage site. I created this site
because I wanted a place where I could be my full & terrible self without
worrying too hard about making a positive impression.
Topics of interest include personal shit, gender politics, regular politics,
and the modern workplace. I don’t really proofread my posts, so let me know if
I say anything that’s just wrong.
“If I have peed farther, it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.”
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Trusting your intuition
I used to be skeptical of people who said that they were good at judging
character and could just tell based on vibes if someone was intelligent,
narcissistic, a good person to work with, etc. I knew about studies showing
that, when the average person tries to judge others on intuition,
they end up preferring people who are similar to themselves, hence the meme
about white politics bros wanting to work with someone they could "grab a
beer with" i.e. another white politics bro.
But here's the thing: I think there are some people who are exceptionally
good at this intuition thing, and I am starting to think it's a key to
success in life, relationships, business, etc. Developing my own ability to
"read" people and learning to trust my gut when I have a bad feeling about
someone--instead of doubting myself and wondering if that's actually just
some horrible bias--has gotten me out of a huge anxiety hole over the past
couple years, and helped me inhabit my corner of the world with more presence
and certainty about who I am.
